I had this coaching client that I worked with in-person for a little over a year.

For the sake of privacy let's call her Joy.

Joy was a pretty bomb human being.

She worked in IT at a local corporation in town, but lived about an hour a way.

Because of her commute she only trained with me at lunch that way she didn't make any extra trips or have to get up any earlier or get home any later.

Each of our training sessions lasted for about 30 minutes and we usually saw each other three times a week.

Pretty standard personal training client.

However Joy had one huge sticking point.

She was obsessed with doing everything "right."

I know I know you are probably thinking to yourself "Why would that be a problem? Don't you want her to do it right?"

Well of course I do, but the thing is no one ever does anything right at the beginning and when you are training to get from point A to point B and there are a lot of things to be done in between there are going to be a lot of beginnings.

Joy had a hard time dealing with this and she never really got over it.

When we started working together we didn't get through more than a couple sets on a couple exercises in our first training session because after every single rep Joy would ask me "Am I doing this RIGHT?"

I'd reassure her, she'd perform another rep, and ask the question again.

She'd repeatedly stop in the middle of a set, ask if I she was doing it right, and then immediately ask for me to demonstrate the exercise again.

It was definitely an "opportunity" for me to practice patience.

The frustrating part of the whole experience with Joy wasn't her desire to do it right it was that I could never seem to make her understand that doing it wrong was just as much, if not more, important in this process than doing it "right."

As a trainer or coach your real job is to teach people how to be successful at exercising and eating in a way that is authentic and genuine to them and helps them achieve their goals and in a way they can do consistently.

However their is very little opportunity to teach when someone does things right.

It's in doing things wrong that real learning happens and true understanding is gained.

Joy didn't seem to get this and for the duration of our time together I never was unable to help her understand it.

Because of this Joy didn't learn much, she didn't make much progress, and our training sessions weren't that productive.

But the glass being half full and all Joy did exercise consistently, we became good friends, and I learned a valuable lesson.

That lesson is what I want to pass along to you.


Seriously it's the biggest thing holding you back and your intention to take action the "correct" way is preventing you from taking action in any way.

Doing and taking action is how we learn.

We screw up.

We do it wrong.

We fail.

Then we are forced to reflect, reassess, and go again.

It's through this process that we discover and learn what the "right" or "correct" way is and most of the time this particular "way" is our way and for no one else.

Don't be like Joy.

Or maybe better put don't spend your time asking if you are doing things "right."

Instead take action, fail forward, try anything, try everything, try all the things.

Learn from the many failures and celebrate when you have a success.

It's the only way we learn.

It's the only way we progress.

It's the only way we succeed.

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